Badmike wrote:Is this "Overally Cautious Guy"?  You know, he keeps asking you is the case cracked, are the inserts the originals, is the disc a copy or the original, etc?  Or is it just "Newbie Dumbass" who is working on his 3rd ebay transaction and doesn't know squat?  Or is it "Im Really Intelligent" Guy who is asking who played the drums on Track Five, is the CD in ADD, is the live session from the Isle of Wight, etc?

Yeah, no kidding ... I've had all those guys before. I sell a lot of CDs, and I have to say that the last guy you mention is my least-favorite, especially since the Pre-Filled Information feature from eBay should take care of most of those types of questions.

This particular guy, for the record, is a combination of the first two: worried about the inserts and the case, etc., but also kind of a n0ObZoRz. He's also kind of blocked, now, too.  

quick dispatch, great item and very good price. Over all very good. Top seller!!

This was recent feedback I got - looks good huh?! But it was a neutral!!!!

Jeez - at least the guy admitted his mistake and agreed to withdraw it - but it's still a withdrawal and many people will see that as a neg I'm afraid.

Heres another neutral

2 dozen counters missing & a thin layer of bubble wrap isn't sufficient packing.

posted just shy of 90 days after the auction ended - I asked the guy why he didn't bring this to my attention earlier and we could have worked something out - his reply is a convoluted pile of shite - I want to message him again but I think it will turn nasty quickly!! (hey-ho - he lives about 6 miles away from where we are taking a camping trip in the Summer - another internet-Conan goes on the list )

gyg wrote:
posted just shy of 90 days after the auction ended - I asked the guy why he didn't bring this to my attention earlier and we could have worked something out - his reply is a convoluted pile of shite - I want to message him again but I think it will turn nasty quickly!! (hey-ho - he lives about 6 miles away from where we are taking a camping trip in the Summer - another internet-Conan goes on the list )

that certainly sounds like one of them "i just have to go and pay a personal visit" scenarios.

no way i would miss out on that opportunity

Al

Actually,



What's getting on my nerves are bad sellers.  Besides D&D items, I also collect Magic cards.



As I'm scanning auctions, especially ones for collections, you wouldn't believe the poor listings.  One picture of just a stack of cards, pictures stolen from other listings, no list of any cards, crazy starting amounts, saying you have cards from the early sets (and only showing 1 or 2), stating you don't know anything about these cards but then having a picture of all the good rares and/or winning other Magic card auctions, and way over estimated shipping costs.  Maybe it's just me, but most of these poor auction descriptions are from newer members.  But, as a new member, wouldn't you want to go out of your way to describe your items?  With little feedback to back you up, you should probably over describe your items.



I wonder if these people think we are all just little puddles of ooze devoid of grey matter?  Sigh, ebay is just not the same as it used to be (I've been a member since 1999).  Sorry for the rant, just wanted to say that I feel your pain folks as both a seller and buyer on ebay.

Center_Stage_Hobbies,

I think the seller's followup to you after a day was ridiculous. However, two things sprung to mind about your response:

1. You used caps in places, which akin to yelling, rather than simply added emphasis you might get with italics. So seeing his response to your response wasn't exactly surprising... particularly given the temperament characteristic of a seller who would send you that sort of non-bidder alert in the first place.

2. After his non-bidder alert, rather than simply paying the dude, or just saying "Yup, I'll have payment out Wedneday", you intentionally chose to challenge the seller on his business practice or whatever. Again, I can easily see how you'd get a defensive response.

Again, the seller is seemingly paranoid and very impatient (perhaps legitimately so, given his past dealings with non-bidders), but in life you don't have any control over what other people do or say... but you have 100% control over what you say and how you respond to people.

It's really peculiar that he'd hose you on the extra minis as a result of your little argument. But it's nonetheless a good life lesson that one should always take the high-road.

Perhaps I should have pm'd Center_Stage_Hobbies instead. I apologize.

Nevertheless, I'll indulge your criticism of my opinion!

Whether the guy is an idiot or not is entirely beside the point. It's like when your girlfriend or wife says something nasty to you and you don't think you've done anything wrong. Saying something ugly back because what she did was inappropriate is not the right way to deal with people. All that happens is that people grow apart, become bitter, and animosity builds.

This is no different. In the seller's mind, what he did was appropriate and justified. That's all that matters. To challenge him, using a tone that can easily be misconstrued as impolite and aggressive, is just asking for something bad to happen. My point is simply that, in the future, one is better off taking the high-road in all matters of life.

Sea-to-sky-games wrote:Perhaps I should have pm'd Center_Stage_Hobbies instead. I apologize.

Nevertheless, I'll indulge your criticism of my opinion!

Whether the guy is an idiot or not is entirely beside the point. It's like when your girlfriend or wife says something nasty to you and you don't think you've done anything wrong. Saying something ugly back because what she did was inappropriate is not the right way to deal with people. All that happens is that people grow apart, become bitter, and animosity builds.

This is no different. In the seller's mind, what he did was appropriate and justified. That's all that matters. To challenge him, using a tone that can easily be misconstrued as impolite and aggressive, is just asking for something bad to happen. My point is simply that, in the future, one is better off taking the high-road in all matters of life.

Huh?  First of all I have to sleep with my wife, not the seller or buyer. Second, if you take the high road view with these people you are precieved as weak and they walk all over you. Take cougies tactics as an example. So CSH, you keep on keeping on with the standing up for yourself and leave the meekness to STD.

Huh?  First of all I have to sleep with my wife, not the seller or buyer.

It was an illustration. One should treat others as you would want to be treated. I don't act belligerent around people because I need to sleep with them; I don't because it avoids conflict and all kinds of other problems.

Second, if you take the high road view with these people you are precieved as weak and they walk all over you. Take cougies tactics as an example. So CSH, you keep on keeping on with the standing up for yourself and leave the meekness to STD.

I've heard the meek shall inherit the Earth...  

Thanks to everyone for their input. Like Sea-to-Sky said, I usually TRY to take the high road when dealing with sellers OR buyers....but this guy just ticked me off, so I can see where my email probably had overtones.

Anyway, I sent him an email apology and paid for the auction today. Just to stir the pot, I was thinking about emailing HIM tomorrow and asking why the figures aren't here yet.

Hopefully he gets over it and gives you all the mini's and in good condition.